Thursday, June 25, 2009

If a man wants you

Posted by a friend of mine in facebook notes. I kinda like it and I think they are very true.

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourselfa year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consistsof two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

For the past few weeks or so I have been exposed with stories of my girlfriends on relationships.

Stuck in a relationship that is no where near love. Only pity has been saving the relationship.
The guy that has been holding you near is not really the Mr Right you’ve been looking for.
He’s nice and he’s all that, but he’s just not the one.
You don’t feel the chemistry.
You don’t feel the connection.
But you can’t leave him because he’s too nice.
And you don’t want to hurt him.
So you stay, thinking that you can somehow work this out.
Because you are afraid that no one will ever love you the way he does.

I had once been in this kind of relationship.

I was too stupid, thinking that I could try to love him.

I never did.

When I finally made the decision to leave, I realized I had wasted my good 4 years stuck in a relationship that I knew was not ever going to go anywhere.

Thanks to someone who had saved me from this nightmare.

Who made me realized what falling in love could possibly mean.

We were accidentally in love.

We thought that it was love, but that relationship was a bridge for us to get to where we are today.

To find the true love. And now I am happier than I have ever did.

So girlfriends, don’t ever think that there’s no other person in this world for you. Always believe that, everybody is made for someone.

You will not find it, if you let yourself stuck in a relationship that is just not meant to be.

My mother always says “Find a man that loves you, not the one that you love, because women can learn to love”.

But learning to love someone is not easy. It applies to the olden days when marriage was an arrangement.

At the present time, women with profession and own aspiration will look for love that could satisfies them.

Quoting from a friend’s theory:

I still however believe that I must only invest in a shoe that fits me perfectly and comfortably. If the shoe feels even slightly uncomfortable, no harm in trying other shoes until you have no doubt that the shoe is meant for you! Imagine that you have to walk with that shoe for a long distance, would you really want to settle for a shoe that is an inch smaller?”

Another friend quoted:

I feel comfortable when I walk alone.. but when I see more gorgeous shoes or more expensive ones or more comfy shoes.. I start to think the shoe I’m wearing isn’t so comfortable after all. However, the shoe I’m wearing is like stuck to my foot! Sometimes I love them, sometimes they hurt me”.

Haih, this is a never ending issue.

You can have someone that’s ok, but you can’t settle with him, because he’s not your Mr Right, so you go and look for others. Or you can just settle with him, and learn to love him; after all, nobody is perfect!

Just follow your instinct but have some values and follow the love rule.

Never settle with a guy if:

a) He hits you and emotionally abuse you and your self esteem
b) He cheats on you
c) He is obsessive and excessively jealous than ordinary boyfriends
d) He lies and live off your money

Girls, the ball is in your court!


haza said...

Great post! I think every woman should know that part abt not making him a quasi-god.

Izrin said...

Thank u kak haza,
hehe..u're right! that's one thing that everybody should learn. :)

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